This has GOT to STOP.
Recently, in my guest post on The Urban Politico, I discussed my thoughts on feminism and chivalry and whether the two can coexist in peace. It was a post that was close to my heart because, in it, I basically came out… as a
Feminist. Well… I used the term semi-feminist, but that’s more just a semantics issue. We can delve into that in another post.
The reason why I bring that up today, is because in the 9 months or so that I had been debating taking up the Feminist mantle, there have been a rash of insane and offensive rapey moments that pretty much sent me floating graciously into Feminist Camp. Even Law & Order SVU tackled one little gem of ignorance the other night, Legitimate Rape. Todd Akin and the thought of his term still make my skin crawl.
I stopped by The Urban Politico’s podcast last week to talk about my guest post and stayed for the roundtable discussion at the end of the show in which we discussed rape, and whether the legalization of prostitution could have a lowering effect on the number of rapes committed in our country. I don’t believe that would help do decline the number of rapes that occur,but the gentleman who spoke on the subject was armed with studies and percentages and all I had was my opinion so who knows whether I’m right or wrong?
A good point was made during the talk about how there needs to be more education amongst the masses about what rape actually is. I made the point too, that men also get raped and those numbers will never be accurate because I believe that men report rape at even lower rates than women do. That being said, yes. We need more education.
I was once in a situation that I believed was rape but, being that I was a teenage girl and not really sure, I called WOAR (Women Organized Against Rape) to ask them if my experience was one in which I should call the police. I was told by the woman that I spoke with that I wasn’t in a situation that could be considered rape, even though I felt it that it was. I was violated, and now I felt that I had been again by not being able to DO anything about it. I was floored, but imagine how shocked I was years later in relaying the story to a friend who is very well versed in the law and finding out that is WAS rape.
So if the defenders of the victims aren’t even fully sure, we can infer that the perpetrators have grey area too, correct? I mean, the case of rape in Steubenville, which has basically ripped the town to shreds, caused other teenage girls to harass and threaten the victim. That is as sad as anything rapey that’s been in the news lately. And the fact that the victim wasn’t even sure if she had been raped, well… I can’t even imagine.
So that brings me to…
Rick Ross. Listen. My issues with misogyny in Hip Hop (and even R&B now, go figure) are well known and something I will be waxing poetic on soon, a piece that will be a labor of love. But this one strikes me because it’s so BLATANTLY a lyric about date rape. In fact, the line itself IS THE EXACT DEFINITION OF DRUG FACILITATED SEXUAL ASSAULT AND DATE RAPE! The offending line is as follows:
Put molly in her champagne, she ain’t even know it
I took her home and I enjoyed that, she ain’t even know it
Last I checked, drugging a woman on a date, taking her home and having your way with her unconscious body was RAPE. Am I wrong? Did the definition of date rape suddenly change?
Now Ross is claiming it was all just a big misunderstanding. We took it the wrong way, ladies! We’re being too sensitive, at least according to him. He says of the, ahem, confusion:
“I want to make sure this is clear, that woman is the most precious gift known to man. It was a misunderstanding with a lyric, a misinterpretation where the term rape wasn’t used.
“I would never use the term rape in my records. As far as my camp, hip-hop don’t condone that. The streets don’t condone that. Nobody condones that…I just wanted to reach out to all the queens that are on my timeline and all the sexy ladies, the beautiful ladies that had been reaching out to me with the misunderstanding.”
You know… because he didn’t SAY he was going to rape her… it was just kinda implied… you can imply rape, right? That’s perfectly justifiable if you don’t actually SAY you’re going to rape her and she just wakes up with a headache and a sore snatch, right?
Watch him try to explain why the lyrics about rape weren’t really all that rapey…
I officially hand Rick Ross the keys to #TheSeatFactory. I IMPLORE him to have each and every one of them.