I can’t stand moronic behaviors and thought processes.
That being said, the fact that you folk are so up in arms about Frank Ocean “coming out” is absolutely asinine. I will be the first to admit I hadn’t even listened to a Frank Ocean song until about 2 hours ago (and I still have no idea why y’all like his tunes so much, but whatevs)… so that should tell you that I am completely unbiased in writing this. I am neither a fan nor a non-fan, if you will. Therefore, when my Twitter erupted over the news that he had songs on his upcoming album Channel Orange (releasing July 17th) that were construed as being about a man, I honestly was like “so what?” Then I remembered that this isn’t a perfect world and the world, and more specifically Hip-Hop community is still filled with rampant homophobia.
And that is absolutely ridiculous considering how much of the industry is gay. Oh. We know who they are; it is rumored on gossip radio and insinuated in the tabloids. We watch their videos and find the hetero love interests in said videos so out of place, but can’t quite bring ourselves to realize how idiotic it is to turn love into something as basic as what sex the person you are PRETENDING to love in a three-minute video is… or how moronic it is to think that simply singing along to the songs somehow makes you in some tiny way, homosexual. Y’all still singing Luther Vandross songs, right??? OK.
I wasn’t aware that Ocean had fully acknowledged his sexuality until this morning when a coworker told me to go to his website and read his post. I did so, and now I am a fan for life. First off, his poignant words were very well put. I appreciated the beauty in which he spoke about his first love, and the consequent pain of loving someone who was so out of touch with themselves and yet so caring in private. I could feel that pain as I read it and thought about my own pains in love. And THAT is the part that people need to realize. Love IS love. It doesn’t matter with whom you experience it.
I recall having had a close female friend fall in love with me. She ended up sabotaging our friendship because she felt that if she told me how she felt, I would have stopped being her friend and loving her or that the pain would have been too much for her if I rejected the idea of being her girlfriend. I won’t delve too deep into the outcome except to say that the way that she handled it had a lot to do with her uncomfortable feelings about how I (and others) would view her if we knew for certain that she was a lesbian. She did me pretty dirty in the end and when we finally discussed it, she told me that it was basically because she wanted to be with me but was terrified to tell me. It broke my heart.
She is now in a relationship with a woman and has been happy as far as I know. But the fact that I had to lose the friendship of someone so close to me because she couldn’t be herself is not only ridiculous but heart wrenching. People are killing themselves. People are hiding who they REALLY are. And it’s only because some ignorant fucks can’t handle that someone may be attracted to the same sex.
Then there are these insane “men” who believe that another man will AUTOMATICALLY want HIM if he is gay. GET THEE ENTIRE FUCK ALL THE WAY THE FOREVER FUCK OUT OF HERE. That’s the most arrogant and misguided thought process on the planet. GET OVER YOUR AVERAGE ASS, BASIC ASS SELVES. That’s like me believing that every hetero man alive wants my goodies. And while most hetero men would probably take it if I tossed it at them, that doesn’t mean that every man who sees me is immediately a horny, stark raving lunatic whose sole purpose is to jimmy his junk into my box. I’m an arrogant bitch, but even I can’t be that stupid.
The fact is, you aren’t that awesome. Nope, not at all. Unless you look like D’Angelo circa the “Untitled” days or some iteration of Brad Pitt, I doubt you have anything to worry about. Then there’s the obviously foreign concept of actually being attracted to someone’s personality or their mind… in which case my dears, you are SURELY not going to have to worry about any reasonable person of either sex wanting you any time soon.
But of course, most of the homophobes that this post is directed toward will either not read this or won’t get it when they do. Either way, maybe reading over and over how much of a twat you are for hating someone for loving and being loved will eventually help you to form some semblance of a real and relevant thought.
We can only hope.